Hey Majestic Daughter! What’s happening?
For a long time, I have been a push over. Ugh, how frustrating this can be…especially when you know you have the ability to stand up for yourself. But you sit passively allowing poor treatment from family, friends and even outsiders.
Gosh, I wish it were easier to stand up for ourselves without feeling the guilt of setting personal boundaries.
Check out my previous article on How to Set Personal Boundaries
There’s also an underlying fear of what happens after you stand up for yourself. Will there be an argument? A fight? A breakup? Whatever your question is, it halts the process of confronting the issue head on.
Who wants to be humiliated after addressing an issue? Nobody!
But I refuse to continue life feeling powerless to stand up to intentional and unintentional bullies. These bullies are in our homes, workplace, community, government and even our churches.
Just the other day, I had enjoyed a great time hearing a powerful preached word. As I proceeded to leave the facility, I hugged an older woman and she blurts out a rude remark. It caught me off guard because I had to process what she had said.
I felt my blood boil and I wanted to catch her in the parking lot and address her pettiness. I decided to sleep it off and send her a nice text the next morning. I’m taking baby steps with this standing up for myself, but I am determined to accomplish it by any means necessary.
Neither you nor I will continue to settle for safe out of fear. You are worthy to be treated with respect. Period!
You have to teach people how to treat you.
I have buried myself in silence for the sake of keeping the peace but this at times has cost me my own peace. Are you willing to find the courage to be brave and stand up for you?
I am not living life in fear this year. For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. (2 Timothy 1:7) You will not allow fear to run your life.
Say what you mean, mean what you say but say it nicely.
With everything within you, teach people how to treat you. Period!
Girl, drop the deets of how you are going to stand up for yourself for the remainder of the year!