Many people struggle with acknowledging the fact that we all at some point in our lives have loved and spoken from a place of pain. As a result of our words and/or actions we caused others pain whether intentional or not. Hurt people, hurt people could not be a more true statement. The hurt and pain within begins to fester, reflecting in our interactions with others creating a vicious cycle.
Loving from a state of peace and not pain definitely requires the presence of the Holy Spirit. Getting to this space within does not mean you have it all together, nor does it happen overnight or come without a fight. It requires us to evaluate ourselves to the core, facing the pain we carry within.
Psalm 34:18 reads “ The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”(NLT)
Psalm 147:3 reads “ He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” (NLT)
Scripture shows that God is with us, but first we must make the decision to heal the areas of pain and allow God to enter into those painful places. Here is where many of us chose the more convenient route and remain the same even if it means living in misery.
We create an image on the outside to camouflage the pain we carry and the longer we pretend the more we begin to believe our own illusions. When we chose to remain the same, we begin to gravitate towards individuals who function in a similar manner and that don’t hold us accountable for our self-health.
These interactions will generally consist of yes people that don’t go against our behaviors, continuous blaming of others for everything, and the creation of even more bad habits that feed the pain rather than assist the healing.
Once we can acknowledge that healing is needed and allow the Holy Spirit to reside in the space of pain. We must learn to calm and control our emotions. Find the root of our pain so that we can resolve the hurt it causes. Then we must chose to create new habits that continue to feed our healing and not our hurt.
This may even require professional help and if you need it. Get it! It took me a long time to admit that no matter how strive to be a good person that I also have loved and spoken from a place of hurt and pain. But I chose to break the cycle and so can you. I have a counselor and I begin to surround myself with accountability partner(s).
The journey is not an easy one but I thank God daily that I made the decision to heal and love from a state of peace and not pain.